Our ways of thinking and feeling are so deeply identified with things we are associated with – our parentage, our children, our wife, our husband, our home – with just about anything and everything. Possibly we identify ourselves to multiple things and we tend to stay in vicious circles of issues. Only when we get dis-identified, when we are able to be involved but not entangled, is when we can set ourselves free. - rephrased from book by Sadhguru